Education Quarterly Reviews
Published: 06 August 2021
Exploring the Grieving Process and Coping Strategies of Meranao Mothers over their Children’s Death
Norlaila P. Magintao, Wardah D. Guimba, Roseniya G. Tamano, Fernando R. Sequete, Jr., Adelyn S. Nalla, Cherrilyn N. Mojica
MSU Marawi City, Philippines
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Keywords: Child’s Death, Grief, Loss, Bereaved Mother, Grieving Process
Death of one’s child is an unfathomable painful situation that a mother may feel. While literature reports different coping strategies across cultures, there has no research yet that explored the grieving process that Meranao mothers go through when they lost a child. Hence, this study explored the grieving process of the bereaved Meranao mothers from the Southern Philippines over the loss of their children and the strategies they used to cope with the feelings of grief. The study was conducted at different barangays located in Marawi City, Lanao del Sur, Philippines. The participants lost children with age range of 18-30 years old. It was discovered that these bereaved mothers ask several questions to themselves emerging after the death of their children. Nonetheless, it was found that after the mothers had worked through their grief brought by their child’s death, they were able to restore their life and become stronger and resilient individuals. This paper concludes that bereaved mothers go through a tedious journey wherein the existence of pain, longing, sadness, guilt and anger were felt, but these emotions only strengthen them as mothers.
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