Asian Institute of Research, Journal Publication, Journal Academics, Education Journal, Asian Institute
Asian Institute of Research, Journal Publication, Journal Academics, Education Journal, Asian Institute

Journal of Social and Political

Sciences

ISSN 2615-3718 (Online)

ISSN 2621-5675 (Print)

asia insitute of research, journal of social and political sciences, jsp, aior, journal publication, humanities journal, social journa
asia insitute of research, journal of social and political sciences, jsp, aior, journal publication, humanities journal, social journa
asia insitute of research, journal of social and political sciences, jsp, aior, journal publication, humanities journal, social journa
asia insitute of research, journal of social and political sciences, jsp, aior, journal publication, humanities journal, social journa
crossref
doi
open access

Published: 08 April 2022

Inter-Religious Mate Selection Negotiating Process Relationship in Indonesia

Putu Chandra Dewi Kardha

University of Indonesia, Indonesia

journal of social and political sciences
pdf download

Download Full-Text Pdf

doi

10.31014/aior.1991.05.01.343

Pages: 12-22

Keywords: Mate Selection, Social Forces, Third Parties, Inter-Religious, Inter-Religious Mate Selection, Relationship, Islam, Christian

Abstract

This research explores the process of inter-religious mate selection and the important role of third parties as social forces in the process among individuals in urban areas in Indonesia. The scope is sociology of family using hybrid typology for the process and Kalmijn (1998) for the third parties. The article enriches those elaborated by Netting (2010), Tsutsui (2013) and Casier et al. (2013) on combination of traditional and love mate selection process, and Kalmijn (1998), Connolly (2009), Yahya and Boag (2014) on the third parties in intermarriage. A qualitative field research with snowball method by doing retrospective interviews in greater Jakarta is conducted among 4 individuals from Islam and Christian. The period of research is from the year 2018-2021. It is revealed that all of the individuals going through the hybrid mate selection process which starts from the love typology and ends in the traditional typology. The process begins with individual choosing his/her mate on his/her own and in the end only able to get married by approval of his/her family. It is revealed individuals’ capability to negotiate his/her standpoint to preserve the relationship until succeed to marry, with several and multilayer third parties specially his/her conjugal family and the state. The process reflects the existence of inter-religious tolerance. A mate selection theoretical contribution on how hybrid process and negotiating with the third parties as social forces also applies in inter-religious context, are also elaborated.

References

  1. Affan, H & Franciska, C. (2015). Ahmad Nurcholish dan Pernikahan Beda Agama [Ahmad Nurcholish and Inter-religious Marriage]. 1-14. http://www.bbc.com/indonesia/majalah/2015/06/150629_bincang_juni2015_nurcholish

  2. Center for Religious and Cross-cultural Studies. (2008). Laporan Tahunan Kehidupan Beragama di Indonesia 2008 [Yearly Report of Religious Life in Indonesia Year 2008]. Yogyakarta: CRCS UGM.

  3. Connolly, Jennifer. (2009). Forbidden Intimacies: Christian–Muslim intermarriage in East Kalimantan Indonesia. American Ethnologist, 36(3), 492–506.

  4. Creswell, J. W. (2003). Research Design Qualitative, Quantitative and Mixed Methods Approaches (2nd Ed.). Thousand Oaks: Sage Publications, Inc.

  5. Creswell, J. W. (2007). Qualitative Inquiry and Research Design Choosing Among Five Approaches (2nd Ed.). Thousand Oaks: Sage Publications, Inc.

  6. Cretser, Gary A dan Leon, Joseph J. (1985). Racial, Religious, And National Origin Intermarriage in The U.S.: Review of Selected Theory, Method, And Research. International Journal of Sociology of the Family, 15 (1/2), 3-30.

  7. Grim, Brian J. (2014). Growing Religion and Growing Religious Restrictions: A Global Overview. International Area Studies Review, 17(2), 134–145.

  8. Kalmijn, Matthijs. (1991b). Trends in Religious and Educational Homogamy. American Sociological Review, 56(6), 786–800.

  9. Kalmijn, Matthijs. (1998). Intermarriage and Homogamy: Causes, Patterns, Trends. Annual. Rev. Sociological, 24, 395–421.

  10. Ulum, Raudatul dan Budiyono. (Ed.). (2016). Survey Kerukunan Umat Beragama Di Indonesia Tahun 2015 [Survey of Religious Harmony in Indonesia Year 2015]. Kementerian Agama RI. Jakarta: Puslitbang Kehidupan Keagamaan 2016.

  11. Kardha, Putu C. D. (2002). Faktor-Faktor yang Mempengaruhi Pemilihan Jodoh di Kalangan Pemuda Bali Beragama Hindu [Factors of Mate Selection in Hindus Balinese Man]. Undergraduate Thesis. Depok: Sociology Department FISIP UI.

  12. Kephart, William M. (1977). The Family, Society and the Individual (4th Ed.). USA: Houghton Mifflin Company.

  13. Kerckhoff, Alan C., Davis, Keith E. (1962). Value Consensus and Need Complementarity in Mate Selection. American Sociological Review, 27(3), 295-303.

  14. Lamanna, Mary Ann., Riedmann, Agnes. (2009). Marriages & Families: Making Choices in a Diverse Society (10th Ed.). Belmont California: Thomson Wadsworth.

  15. Lamanna, Mary Ann., Riedmann, Agnes., Strahm, Ann. (2012). Marriages, Families, and Relationships Making Choices in a Diverse Society (11th Ed). Belmont California: Wadsworth, Cengage Learning.

  16. Lee, Gary R., Stone, Lorene Hemphill. (1980). Mate-Selection Systems and Criteria: Variation according to Family Structure. Journal of Marriage and Family, 42(2), 319-326.

  17. Marcson, Simon. (1951). A Theory of Intermarriage and Assimilation. Social Forces, 29(1), 75-78.

  18. Medora, Nilufer P. (2003). Mate Selection in Contemporary India: Love Marriages vs. Arranged Marriages. In Raeann R Hamon & Bron B Ingoldsby (Ed.). Mate Selection Across Cultures (209-230). Thousand Oaks: SAGE Publications, Inc.

  19. Murray, Colleen I., Kimura, Naoko. (2003). Japan and Multiplicity of Paths to Couple Formation. In Raeann R Hamon & Bron B Ingoldsby (Ed.). Mate Selection Across Cultures (247-268). Thousand Oaks: SAGE Publications, Inc.

  20. Murstein, Bernard I. (1980). Mate Selection in the 1970s. Journal of Marriage and Family, 42 (4), 777-792.

  21. Netting, Nancy S. (2010). Marital Ideoscapes in 21st Century India: Creative Combinations of Love and Responsibility. Journal of Family Issues, 31(6), 707-726.

  22. Neuman, Lawrence. (2014). Social Research Methods: Qualitative and Quantitative Approaches (7th Ed.). Essex England: Pearson Education Limited.

  23. Nurcholish, Ahmad., Baso, Ahmad (Ed.). (2010). Pernikahan Beda Agama: Kesaksian, Argumen Keagamaan, dan Analisis Kebijakan [Inter-Religious Marriage: Witness, Religious Argument and Policy Analysis]. Jakarta: Komisi Nasional Hak Asasi Manusia (KOMNAS HAM).

  24. Nurcholish, Ahmad. (2017, September 24). Personal Interview.

  25. Nurcholish, Ahmad. (2018, Maret 14). Personal Interview.

  26. Parker, Lyn., Hoon, Chang Yau., Raihani. (2014). Young People’s Attitudes towards Inter-Ethnic and Inter-Religious Socializing, Courtship and Marriage in Indonesia. South East Asia Research, 22(4), 467–86.

  27. Sprecher, S., Hatfield, E. (2015). The Importance of Love as a Basis of Marriage: Revisiting Kephart (1967). Journal of Family Issues, 38(3), 312-335.

  28. Tempo.co. (2017, January 30). Survei Alvara, 95 Persen Muslim Indonesia Religius [Alvara Survey 95 Percentage of Indonesian Moslem is Religious]. Tempo.co. April 17, 2018. https://nasional.tempo.co/read/841234/survei-alvara-95-persen-muslim-indonesia-religius

  29. Tsutsui, Junya. (2013). The Transitional Phase of Mate Selection in East Asian Countries. International Sociology, 28(3), 257–76.

  30. —————. (1996). Undang-undang Pokok Perkawinan [Marriage Principal Laws] (Third Edition). Jakarta: Bumi Aksara.

  31. Winch, Robert F., Ktsanes, Thomas., Ktsanes, Virginia. (1954). The Theory of Complementary Needs in Mate-Selection: An Analytic and Descriptive Study. American Sociological Review, 19 (3), 241-249.

  32. Xia, Yan R., Zhou, Zhi G. (2003). The Transition of Courtship, Mate Selection, and Marriage in China. In Raeann R Hamon & Bron B Ingoldsby (Ed.). Mate Selection Across Cultures (231-246). Thousand Oaks: SAGE Publications, Inc.

  33. Yahya, Siham., Boag, Simon. (2014). My Family Would Crucify Me!: The Perceived Influence of Social Pressure on Cross-Cultural and Interfaith Dating and Marriage. Sexuality and Culture, 18, 759-772.